It is the middle of February – Month #2 in my 12-Months Marathon Training Program – and I want to talk about how fitness is affecting my relationships with those close to me: my husband, my mom and my kids.
Romance in the Gym
Me and you, my dear husband, have been partnering up and working as a team when it comes to our workouts (hence the name of the blog: the Mom and Dad Marathon). With four little kids under our noses all day, we have no choice but to split up shifts in the evenings and on weekends in order to free each other to go to the gym and do our runs.
Saturday nights after 8pm are our date nights. This is our night to be young and free and its a new tradition that we’ve started in the past few months. It has done wonders to our relationship. Last Saturday, we decided to experiment by going to the gym first and then heading to our date.
The negative voices in my head were working overtime. It was so hard to get all the kids to sleep and by 8pm I was ready to drop on my own bed. “You are too tired” – the voices said. “It will be a nightmare” – they went on in my head. “Now you have to pack all of your clothes for the date – too much work”. And on and on they went. I was just about ready to cancel.
Thank god that you, my husband, are such a trooper. Even though you were tired too, there was no way that you were going to miss out on two of your favorite things: working out and going out on a date together.
We had the workout of our lives. The gym was almost completely empty. Who knew that the gym can be so romantic on a Saturday night. I watch you from across the room. You see me running too. We are young teenagers again.
Now, here is something tremendous that I found out lately: a run is better than a nap. I felt so energized that going out on a date at 9:30pm seemed a must.
The energized version of me ready to go out after the workout
Finally, our gift to ourselves this Valentine’s Day: We were accepted into the lottery for the 5-Boro NYC Bike Tour coming up in May.
Evening Workouts with Mom
We have been living with my mom in NYC for the past two years. One can only imagine how complicated a relationship can get when a family of six moves back in with Grandma.
You signed up for the gym along with us, Mom. You’ve started waking up at 4:3o AM and working out in the mornings with my husband while I watch the kids. Our schedules differ and sometimes we prefer it that way. In the past week, we have been driving to the gym after the kids go to sleep to walk, run and swim.
I want to share with you that although we are each busy doing our workouts, I feel a sense of warmth and security to have my mom there. When I swim in the pool and see you swimming a few lanes away from me, I am happy.
You know, Mom, may staying fit and getting in shape bring me and you closer together – slowly but surely.
Mimicking Mom and Dad
From a house where there is little talk about sports, we have become a house where topics of sports are talked about daily. You, little ones, see me and dad and Grandma go to do our runs and you learn. We lay on the carpet to do our sit-ups and surely one or two or three of you join us in the exercise session.
Doing sit-ups with Dad in the living room
Our relationship with you kids has become lots of fun since we’ve started training for the marathon. You play “pretend marathon” games running to cross “pretend finish lines”. Exercising at home is not as lonely for me since you guys have been joining me. I can’t wait until spring comes back to NYC so that we can start doing our group runs on the beach all together.
My little runners, may you never ever stop running as far as you can and please make sure to let no one stop you.
Weight goal this month: 170lbs.
Weight this morning: 170.5lbs
Since I have almost reached my target goal this month, I will be a bit ambitious and strive for losing two more pounds by the end of February.
New weight goal for February: 168lbs.
Back from a jog on the boardwalk
Note to self: I know you can do it!
This is the food diary template that I am starting to use. The big benefit of this template is that it allows you to document things like the food you eat as well as your mood, your energy level, your digestion and water intake on a particular day and see the connection between all of these factors. I am curious to see how it all comes together.
A few days ago, while changing in the gym locker room I had a conversation with an older woman who looks great. When I asked her what her secret was she said: Don’t eat after 6pm. Okay, lady, not sure who you are and what your name is but I am willing to experiment with this new tip. I am starting today and will report the results of course.
One last tip that I have received from a reader: drink two cups of water before each meal to “fill up” the stomach. I will be trying this out this week as well. Stay tuned for updates on this one.
Take Home Message for Myself and for the Readers
Don’t allow the negative voices in your head to prevent you from accomplishing your goals. Do whatever you need to neutralize them. Meditate and befriend them and let them know you are very serious about becoming fit so they better go back to their tiny irrelevant size. If that doesn’t work, kick them out of your head with no holds barred and don’t let them sway you from putting on your exercise clothes and getting out the door. You are stronger than they are. Don’t ever forget that.
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